Poetry should not be in service of art any more than religion, ideology, morality. Poetry should be in the service of nothing-–and not even that.
Sometimes people let the same problem make them miserable for years when they could just say, So what. That’s one of my favorite things to say. So what.
As it has been said:
Love and a cough
cannot be concealed.
Even a small cough.
Even a small love.
Give up defining yourself - to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life.